The Pandemic: Then and Now

Tomorrow, Friday May 29, will end the 11th week of Santa Clara County’s shelter-in-place order first issued on March 16. That seems like a long time ago, and it also seems like just yesterday. I remember walking 5 miles around my neighborhood the next day: typically...

A Most Unique Mother’s Day

Tomorrow is the day to celebrate Moms. Biological moms, adoptive moms, foster moms, step moms, mothers in law, and all those who fill the role of mom, including aunts, dads, and friends. How will you spend Mother's Day tomorrow, and who will you be celebrating?...

10 Steps to Making Our Children and Ourselves More at Ease

The shelter in place orders continue. And our stress, anxiety, and boredom might be increasing. Here are 10 ways to ease the tensions at home during these very unusual times. Make yourself #1.You are the center, the fulcrum of a scale, and you cannot balance...

Today’s Academic Growth vs. Emotional Growth

When the first shelter in place order was issued here in the Bay Area, we were told it was for 3 weeks. Now it has been extended for another 4 weeks. And while the good news is that our efforts to stay home are indeed flattening the curve locally, it is very likely...

Some Thoughts on the Coronavirus Pandemic

When I finished with my last client yesterday, I came home and plan to stay here for the weekend. I've been following the advice to wash my hands often for 20 seconds each time, don't shake hands with anyone, stand 6 feet apart from people, and avoid crowds. But many...

The Value of Consequences

I'm driving on the freeway and I see the same rule posted every few feet: 65 MPH. It is posted often so every driver sees and knows the rule. Every driver also understands the consequence for breaking the rule: a speeding ticket complete with loss of time and money. I...

11 Steps to Calmer Parenting

Parenting is the toughest job in the world, but also the most rewarding. The days are long, but the years are short. So how we approach each day makes a huge difference in how we feel. Remaining calm is good for our own mental health but also a wonderful lesson to our...

A Happy Holiday Season to All!

The final holidays of 2019 are here! (How did this year go by so fast?) Hopefully they will be filled with fun times: visiting with families and friends, presents, good food, and hopefully sharing with those less fortunate. (The holiday season continues to offer lots...

My Favorite Holiday is Almost Here!

I just love Thanksgiving. I call it the "F" holiday: Fall, Family, Friends, Food, Football, and Fun. I love that there are no gifts - only those of being together and connecting. I love cold mornings and cool days. I love the smell of roasting turkey. As a child, I...

Anxiety: What Is It and How Can I Help?

I often hear from parents expressing concern that their child is exhibiting anxiety. They are questioning if their child is okay, and if more professional help is needed. To help answer some of your questions, here are notes from a talk I gave on the topic of anxiety:...